There is a way back. We can repent and come unto the Lord. This is my testimony, in the name of Jesus Christ, amen
Monday, December 14, 2015
Saturday, December 12, 2015
Top 10 Countdown of the Best Things I Have Learned about the Family: #10 Offer Contact Freely to Children
Parents need to offer contact freely. Many times, it is hard to understand how to treat children.
Why? A video once said that we should see children with lab coats, safety glasses and calculators. Children are always experimenting, trying to understand the situations that they are going through. Psychologically, children experience more stresses throughout their growing-up years than many adults do. Many times, they don’t even understanding how they are feeling. Therefore it is the response of parents that can greatly influence the child’s reaction or response to any situation.
One thing that I learned in my Family Relations’ class is that one of the greatest needs of children is a feeling of the sense of belonging. When children do not feel like they belong, then they resort to undue attention seeking.
Brother Williams told us a story of a children’s (infant) hospital with two wards. The first ward was experiencing more deaths and a longer recovery process. The second ward was noted to be a significantly healthier ward. The administrator’s decided that they wanted to find out the source of the problem in the first ward. Was it infection? Was it the staff? They decided to switch up the staff from one ward to the other. They tried to provide a healthier atmosphere for the first ward through cleaner practices. Yet, even with the changes, the first ward was still experiencing more deaths and longer recoveries. Then, one night, they found a potential solution. The nightly cleaning lady, who was in charge of cleaning the second ward, loved to cradle the children and babies in between her cleaning visits. She would hold them, and sing to them. They decided to switch her to the other ward. When they switched her to the other ward, the babies/children responded better and recovered quicker!
When our children are experiencing sorrow or difficulties, it is important for us to offer contact freely. One girl in our class taught us that in the first nine months we need to always go to a crying baby, so they can learn to trust in us.
Why? A video once said that we should see children with lab coats, safety glasses and calculators. Children are always experimenting, trying to understand the situations that they are going through. Psychologically, children experience more stresses throughout their growing-up years than many adults do. Many times, they don’t even understanding how they are feeling. Therefore it is the response of parents that can greatly influence the child’s reaction or response to any situation.
One thing that I learned in my Family Relations’ class is that one of the greatest needs of children is a feeling of the sense of belonging. When children do not feel like they belong, then they resort to undue attention seeking.
Brother Williams told us a story of a children’s (infant) hospital with two wards. The first ward was experiencing more deaths and a longer recovery process. The second ward was noted to be a significantly healthier ward. The administrator’s decided that they wanted to find out the source of the problem in the first ward. Was it infection? Was it the staff? They decided to switch up the staff from one ward to the other. They tried to provide a healthier atmosphere for the first ward through cleaner practices. Yet, even with the changes, the first ward was still experiencing more deaths and longer recoveries. Then, one night, they found a potential solution. The nightly cleaning lady, who was in charge of cleaning the second ward, loved to cradle the children and babies in between her cleaning visits. She would hold them, and sing to them. They decided to switch her to the other ward. When they switched her to the other ward, the babies/children responded better and recovered quicker!
When our children are experiencing sorrow or difficulties, it is important for us to offer contact freely. One girl in our class taught us that in the first nine months we need to always go to a crying baby, so they can learn to trust in us.
Tuesday, December 8, 2015
In a Time Where Love "Wax(es) Cold" because of Iniquity
Chastity is more than teeth-clenching abstinence. Properly lived, it is a happy state of mind—peace of mind—which allows us to receive guidance, reassurance, and comfort for our present daily life, now as well as the future. Instead of focusing on pleasing ourselves, we can focus on serving others. (Elder Neal A. Maxwell--What is Real Love and Happiness? June 1992)My testimony is that pure and Christlike love is the greatest solution to our dilemma today!
Saturday, December 5, 2015
5 Tips to Great Parenting
What are children going through?
They psychologically experience more stress. For example:
1. Bullying
2. Increased sexual desires, but they can't use them
3. Drugs/Alcohol
4. So many other factors: body image, school, work, family problems, friend problems, etc.
It's no wonder children are so hard to understand. They have so much that is being thrown upon them, and they have so many choices to make! It's crazy but 500,000 children attempt suicide every year!
So, how can we help our children and teens out? Many times it seems that they don't listen to what we (as parents) have to say, so how can we get them to open up? What skills of parenting can we use to teach them?
I have created a list of five things that I think are important for all parents to use:
1. More important than talking and lecturing, is listening and allowing them to teach themselves. When parents actively listen to their children, (note the word active, meaning a conscious effort) they can better assess the problem by addressing their needs and not all of their failures.
2. Encouragement leads to greater growth in children. Children have a great need to feel that they are important and that they belong. We need to take time to focus on their good achievements, and their good intentions (even when their good intentions do not produce the best results)
3. Allow children to have a part in the problem prevention discussions. For example, when we establish rules for our children, we need to hear their opinions and sit down with them.
4. We need to allow them to assume responsibility. Giving children tasks and allowing them to take responsibility for their actions is an important and vital step for their progression. We must never yell or degrade them when they do what is wrong, yet we must not act as "doormats" and do nothing when they do not follow through.
5. Mutual respect is something important for children to learn. Mutual respect occurs through proper communication. Remember you cannot not communicate. Good communication is fostered through love, interest, and trust.
They psychologically experience more stress. For example:
1. Bullying
2. Increased sexual desires, but they can't use them
3. Drugs/Alcohol
4. So many other factors: body image, school, work, family problems, friend problems, etc.
It's no wonder children are so hard to understand. They have so much that is being thrown upon them, and they have so many choices to make! It's crazy but 500,000 children attempt suicide every year!
So, how can we help our children and teens out? Many times it seems that they don't listen to what we (as parents) have to say, so how can we get them to open up? What skills of parenting can we use to teach them?
I have created a list of five things that I think are important for all parents to use:1. More important than talking and lecturing, is listening and allowing them to teach themselves. When parents actively listen to their children, (note the word active, meaning a conscious effort) they can better assess the problem by addressing their needs and not all of their failures.
2. Encouragement leads to greater growth in children. Children have a great need to feel that they are important and that they belong. We need to take time to focus on their good achievements, and their good intentions (even when their good intentions do not produce the best results)
3. Allow children to have a part in the problem prevention discussions. For example, when we establish rules for our children, we need to hear their opinions and sit down with them.
4. We need to allow them to assume responsibility. Giving children tasks and allowing them to take responsibility for their actions is an important and vital step for their progression. We must never yell or degrade them when they do what is wrong, yet we must not act as "doormats" and do nothing when they do not follow through.
5. Mutual respect is something important for children to learn. Mutual respect occurs through proper communication. Remember you cannot not communicate. Good communication is fostered through love, interest, and trust.
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